7 years ago

Episode 7: Vagina People (Be Your Own Protagonist)

Women are so often discouraged from being the lea…

Women are so often discouraged from being the leading characters of their own books and their own lives. From fairytales filled with evil witches and brainless princesses needing saving to being left out of history altogether, it is evident that we need to share our own stories boldly and without apology. In this special episode (read: RANT), Hayley rips apart a recent writer's workshop that includes a guy with a ponytail yelling, "Why is Bob's Wife such a BITCH?" Maybe it's because Bob is a small-minded misogynist Maybe Bob’s narrative sucks. Maybe Bob and his kind are on their way to extinction. Get in touch: [email protected] @Hayleyandthecrushers on Instagram www.isyourboyfriendintheband.com

7 years ago

Episode 6: Dare to Leap (and land on your feet)

Episode 6: How to Leap (and land on your feet) Al…

Episode 6: How to Leap (and land on your feet) Alternate title: How the Worst of David Bowie can teach us the best about ourselves! recorded in Berlin, Germany Featuring my big sister, Shakrah Yves, who recently went from working as a seamstress at Beach Blanket Babylon in San Francisco to a burgeoning computer coder in Berlin. To say I am proud would be a massive understatement. I am changed by HER decision to change. We pose the question: Are you daring enough to change everything? To give up the comfort you know and take a leap to a new, strange land? What are the hardships you are willing to endure to make this earth-shattering change in your life? How will you dust yourself off and move forward? Clue: Forging close relationships and cultivating self love is key. On this episode: Let's get real. We totally talk about the serious stuff that comes with this kind of life change, but there's also a lot of laughing, giggling, joking and just being sisters. I hope you enjoy this very real peek into our special (glittery) relationship. And yes, this one’s recorded direct from Shakrah's kitchen in East Berlin with special guests David Bowie and Ertha Kit! Plus: Bad Berlin haircuts! Brogrammers! The struggle of the modern day jazz singer is real! Glueing rhinestones onto rhinestones! How we realized we are VERY American after all! Bonus: Cat saliva! Meditation! Drone fish! And so much more! Hey. I might even sing a little. Huge thanks to Shakrah Yves for opening up and allowing her annoying lil sis to ply her with random questions that are neither here nor there (as always). Plus, Hayley's band Hayley and the Crushers is on tour now! See 'em live: Sept 6 and 7 in Portland Sept 8 in Seattle Sept 9 in Tacoma Sept 10 in Bellingham Learn more about the tour at www.hayleyandthecrushers.com https://hayleyandthecrushers.bandcamp.com/music Want to chat on the show? Have questions? Want to know more about Shakrah's music? Fave David Bowie tunes? Email [email protected]!

8 years ago

Episode 5: Transition to Truth

Episode 5: Transition to Truth Transition is har…

Episode 5: Transition to Truth Transition is hard for everyone. It is the necessary evil that takes us from who we are to who we're becoming. My friend Jordie Lynn Washburn understands this painful, uncomfortable, yet fulfilling leap of faith better than most. Her recent transition from the man the world knew her as to the woman who she was always meant to be was not easy or glamorous. However, on the other side, she found joy, love, laughter, rock n roll, and self empowerment in Santa Cruz, CA's artist community. Today, we talk about what it took to get past that overwhelming fear, self doubt, shame, and sadness. Jordie worried that friends and loved ones who have known her for years (myself included) would not know how to embrace this newfound person, with her big, beautiful grin and vivacious giggle. What she found, when she opened her eyes to the truth, was unbelievable: Love. Compassion. Strength. Encouragement. We hope to pass this big, juicy ball of love on to you today. No matter what you're dealing with, you are not alone. The world needs your truth. Transition into it, despite the fear. Just ask Jordie. It's TOTALLY worth it. We can all stand to be a bit more courageous, and we can thank today's guest for kickstarting our motivation! Jordie Lynn's dreamy band, Moonbeaux, is featured in this episode (stick around for extra tunes at the end). https://moonbeaux.bandcamp.com/album/ladies Tell Jordie how sexy her drumming is! No, seriously. Don't do that. But watch live Moonbeaux performances at Vimeo anyhow. : ) https://vimeo.com/160498873 Suicide Prevention Hotline (it gets better): https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org Get in touch with the Podcast at [email protected] or @sparkleanddestroypod on Instagram. SO MUCH LOVE. SO MANY GIGGLES. PLEASE ENJOY AND ROCK ON, SPARKLERS AND DESTROYERS!

8 years ago

Episode 4: DGAF

Join the Kerfuffle! Today’s guest: Wine Darci! …

Join the Kerfuffle! Today’s guest: Wine Darci! Wine Darci doesn’t know when to stop. Wine Darci DGAF. Hayley and her “darling” neighbor Darci Hafley vent about the silencing of feminism online and otherwise. We talk online etiquette (extended sigh) and Hayley drops a few Feminist “Pussy Proclamations” and inalienable rights. Also, quit dumping on Millennials, people. Just because they don’t have “real jobs” and pay more for organic produce doesn’t mean you can blame all of your bitter failings on them. Hayley’s husband, silly cyber troll and bleak Gen Xer Dr. Reid Cain Esquire stops by to talk about tribal arm bands, how to sell a box of leaves, and the fact that we’re all going to die. Go ahead and unfriend us. Block us. Report us. We dare you. WDGAF. Do Like Mindy Kaling and go follow Darci on Twitter @Darcissist. Plus - Hayley's playing a bunch of live shows this month! Go to www.hayleyandthecrushers.com or www.isyourboyfriendintheband.com. Contact Hayley @sparkleanddestroypod [email protected] And remember...March 8 is the Day Without a Woman event! Here's some info: https://www.bustle.com/p/how-to-find-a-day-without-a-woman-protest-if-you-are-able-to-take-the-day-off-work-41837

8 years ago

Episode 3: Trust Your Gut

What’s that noise?! Oh, it’s just the guttural mo…

What’s that noise?! Oh, it’s just the guttural moan of May Black, nasty, defiant front woman and guitarist for Oakland modern grunge rock band MUTT. Today, we talk about our favorite signs at the Women’s March (you can’t comb over injustice), the deal with white wine and flip flops, how to rise above pretentious guitar shop bros, and how to trust your gut when it comes to finding your sound, buying music gear, songwriting, performing, and just being real (whether you’ve got your shirt on or off). Also: Kurt Cobain never rolled out of bed and vomited out a perfectly complete, amazing song, so keep at it, sister. You’ve got to work at it, and May has done a lot of inner and outer work to get to the rock queendom she now enjoys today. It is all VERY glamorous, I can assure you. Plus: A rare phone call with a real life Mutt, Chihuahua terrier (?) miss Mavis, who recently enjoyed the pleasures of “street sausage.” Check out MUTT’s music and tour dates at https://muttmusic.bandcamp.com and note that proceeds from a portion of MUTT Fight Song T-Shirt sales are currently going to Planned Parenthood. They've also got a brand new cassette tape coming out, so get your paws on one before they're gone! CONTACT SPARKLE AND DESTROY PODCAST! [email protected] @sparkleanddestroypod @hayleyandthecrushers